6 Month Anniversary

Today is the  6 month anniversary  of our sweet baby Ava’s death… we’ve been without her for half of a year and I find it really hard.  I’ve said it before, but the more time that passes just makes me feel like I’m getting further and further away from her… it’s like I’m leaving her behind and putting more and more miles between us, and I don’t like it.  It’s been six months since I held her and kissed her and told her that I loved her.  Six months since we had 5 children and 6 months since we had to say good-bye to someone who we loved so very much.   And it’s tough, it really is.

But in this grieving process there are still so many things we are thankful for.   First off, we are thankful that people are still praying for us – even though its been six months and we don’t update often.   When people tell me they are still praying we feel so blessed that people have not forgotten us and that God is still laying us on people’s hearts.    Another thing I’m thankful for is just how busy our life is with four kids (no matter how much I complain).   In my life there isn’t often time to just sit and think about how much I miss Ava.  Lying in bed before we go to sleep is often when it hits Jay and I, but this long winter has tired me out and it’s not often I can stay awake for more than a minute or so, praise God for that.  🙂

And we know that we were fortunate that we were able to do quite a bit of our grieving before we lost Ava.  The actual truth is that we started grieving before she was born.  We always had a strong hope that she would beat the odds and make it –  but because we almost lost her a few times before she died, it forced us to take a look at what our future would look like without her.   It’s like we were able to practice grieving… and those times were incredibly painful, but it did help prepare us.   And because of that, we know that we are grieving in a complete different way than those who suddenly lose someone they love.  It’s just that for both I’m sure the end result is the same…   living with the memories of a person you long for, and missing them like crazy.

I miss my Birdy… I really do.

Oh that God gave us that precious gift, but only for such a short short time.  Having Ava taught us so much about God’s goodness to us and His incredible faithfulness that if I ever doubt God again I hope someone smacks me… hard.    And there is the promise that God used this time in our lives for His glory and to strengthen our faith and bring us closer to Him. We also know that it made us more aware of the suffering of others and I hope God will continue to keep using these lessons learned in our lives as long as we are here on earth.

Here’s another wonderful promise….

1 Peter 5:10&11 And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.  To him be the dominion forever and ever. Amen.

Praise God for His promises…. Amen!

Pumping and Riding

So here we are after a whole week of pumping and I can say without hesitation that Sarah loves her pump!      She seems to have adjusted well to having to wear her insulin pump 24/7 and I can say that we are all enjoying the freedom that it gives her eating wise.   When Sarah was getting her needles every day she had a set amount of carbohydrates that she could eat for each meal and snack, but now with the pump there is none of that.  She can eat what she wants, when she wants.  Oh the freedom!

We were a little worried that once she started pumping, she was going to want to binge and not stop eating, but it hasn’t been that way at all.  She’s actually been eating roughly the same amount of carbs as before, she just eats them at different times.    When she first got started last week and was still getting used to it, at one point she asked me hesitantly at snack-time, “Mom, can I have a yogurt AND a cookie?”  And I could answer for the first time in over a year, “YES!  Yes, you may have a yogurt AND a cookie for  a snack.”   It felt so good.

Here is  a look at her pump and her insertion site where it plugs into her.   The only draw-back is that the site has to be changed every 3 days, but Sarah is a trooper and thanks to new friends of ours, we found an insertion set that is very easy to use and install.

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And the pump came just two days after her 7th birthday,  I wish it had come a little bit sooner, but we saved her birthday cake for a few days after her birthday to enjoy with grandma and grandpa.   Sarah was with me at Costco and picked it out.  It was rather large, but she so badly wanted a nice juicy cake that I capitulated and bought it for her.    And just look at her face….

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And her piece was a whole whooping 100 carbohydrates!    But the pump could handle it.   We just told the pump what she was eating and it gave her the right amount of insulin… wonderful.  (That’s her “checker” right beside her by-the-way.   Her meter and “poker” that we use to check her blood sugar levels,  we never go anywhere without it.)

She did have nice 7th birthday, with an impromptu birthday party with her neighborhood pals where we made these little birdies…

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Perhaps I’m a little obsessed with birds, but these birdies are really sweet and  I like to think of it as bringing a part of Ava into things.   I found the pattern here if anyone is interested.

And then, as part of her present from us and grandma, we gave Sarah got horse-back riding lessons!   She loves horses like many little girls, and after visiting a friends farm with horses a few years ago I knew that she had no fear of them.   So through a friend we hooked her up with some lessons.  And even though it was cold last night and the barn wasn’t heated, she enjoyed riding “Swiper” and can’t wait to do it again next week.

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It’s been a busy couple of weeks here with the transition to pumping, but all in all it’s going well.   It’s been a bit stressful, just because it’s new, but when we see how happy it’s made Sarah we know we made the right choice.

Happy pumping Sarah!