You don’t know the half of it

Last November, JDRF  the leader in research and advocacy for type 1 diabetes put out some videos called “You Don’t Know the Half Of It“.   They showed interviews with people or children with type 1 diabetes who talked about what it’s really like,  the things that people don’t see and don’t really understand about this disease.   Jason said the video’s were depressing, and I agree, they kinda were. 🙂   But really, I think that was the point.    Those smart people at JDRF know that most people only see the outside of the disease, and they really wanted to show the darker side, the hard things about living with diabetes that people wouldn’t ever see.

But these videos got me to thinking that even though our struggle here is with diabetes , I know that so many people are struggling with different things.   Our family has received a crash course in type 1 diabetes, but in turn we know so little about the cystic fibrosis, the fetal alcohol, the ADHD, the autism and the congenital blindness – and the list goes on – that my friends and their children are dealing with.    I many have gleaned a tiny bit of information from articles I’ve read, and picked up a few insights from spending time with these children, but do I really know the half of what they are dealing with?   Probably not.

And can I tell you something?   I RESENT it very much when kind-hearted people have told me what I should be doing for Sarah, and are sure that if I just did this one thing her diabetes would be easier to manage.  Thankfully this hasn’t happened very often, and to be honest I’m not sure why I get upset.   Maybe it’s because diabetes already hurts and I already know that there isn’t an easy way out and I wished this person really knew what they were talking about and what we were going through.

But then I kinda of cringe here, because I know that many times my pride has deceived me and allowed me to believe that I have some special insight into other people’s problems and have allowed thoughtless opinionated words to come out.  It’s makes me sad because I don’t want to be that person, I want to be wise!!!   I love that verse in James (James 3:13-18) when he says, “Who is wise and understanding among you?”  And guess what, wisdom isn’t pointing the finger because I’m harbouring selfish ambition, or being proud and therefore critical.  And it’s certainly not telling others what you think they should be doing.   James says wisdom from the Lord is  “first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.”  

I heard a quote recently that made me laugh – it was “Not my monkeys, not my circus”.   I liked it because I know how easy it is to get drawn into things that really don’t have anything to do with me.   And in most cases, especially when it concerns other people’s children,  I need to remember that I don’t know the half of it.


7 thoughts on “You don’t know the half of it

  1. Good post, Lisa

    Presumption is exactly what frustrated Job so much from his friends. They assumed he must be guilty for God to deal with him as He did, and then tried to teach him theology. Here was Job’ s reply, “truly then you are the people and wisdom will die with you.” Job 12:2. Better yet, 13:2, “what you know I also know. I am not inferior to you.”

    You are right. We need to learn wisdom. Never offer advice unless asked; or in an emergency -is what your dad likes to say!

    Love you,

  2. 💖💖💖 sparkly hearts because you truly are the best.

    So much to learn, and I do want to be wise, that peaceable part gives me trouble sometimes though. Lol

    You, btw, are an amazing mom doing an amazing job. So thankful I get to call you friend.

  3. Amen sista! 🙂 You just don’t know until you’ve been there and even then, the circumstances are not all the same. Each of our children are unique and come with unique personalities etc (as we all do), so even if it’s the same diagnosis, it can be completely different for one child than it is for another. We need to judge less and pray and seek wisdom more. Thanks for that reminder! 🙂

  4. So true! The more I learn, the more I know I don’t know! I hope that when I ask questions they’re seen as just that, questions, because I really don’t know, and I’m learning from all the more experienced mamas around me.

  5. Thank you Lisa. We all need wisdom when it comes to these issues instead of “here’s my opinion” before researching and learning more about what the issues are like in real life. One can never fully understand until they walk in the other person’s shoes.
    Keep up the great writing!

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