Nailed it

I am very aware of all my failures in life, they are too numerous to count.  But on the bright side some of my failures make me laugh and hence should be shared.  Take this for example, Sarah’s birthday cake… if I was going to try to make it as beautiful as Martha Stewart’s vanilla cake, then I can definitely say I nailed it.  lol

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Isn’t it just beautiful in all it’s sloppy glory?   I think I’ve known since I was 10 that you shouldn’t ice a warm cake, and that is especially true if you want to ice it with a concoction of pudding and whipped cream, which I found out apparently just melts on a warm cake.    Will I ever learn?   But it did taste good, so I suppose it redeemed itself.

So yes, Sarah did turn 8 a few weeks ago and it was fun to celebrate with her and appreciate her for all her gifts and abilities.  And just because you are 8 doesn’t mean that hair-brushing is a priority in life –  I mean really – it’s such an insignificant thing.  Maybe it will be a priority when she is 15?   Good thing she can clean a bathroom, sew and do lots of other thing really well to make up for it.

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And if that cake I made for Sarah’s birthday looked scumptious, then I’m sure you’ll appreciate this concoction…

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“Since when do chicked-peas, boiled eggs, peas, beets, avocado, blueberries and pears belong together in a blender?”, you might ask.    Especially as they were soon joined by joined by yogurt, milk and olive oil.   And since I can tell you that yes, they were blended together your next question might be,  “Who in the world would eat that mixture?”

Well this sweet little person would…

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Remember our little friend Aleeda who we met at Sick Kids?  She received a heart transplant July 2013 and is doing so well.  She came home from the hospital with a g-tube, and she was being primarily fed by that, but rather than push formula into her tube, her mom Tania opted instead to make her real food blends “purees” that mimic the nutrition in a formula supplement.  These are so much better tolerated, as in when Tania pulled the formula and started feeding purees to Aleeda, she stopped puking every day.    And Aleeda has thrived on them and since her g-tube was pulled will actually eat them orally, smart little girl.  I got to help Tania and made a few batches of them for the freezer,  but Aleeda is doing so well that she is almost eating all real food now.  It’s so wonderful to see her progress, I find it just amazing.

Alleeda and her sister Britton came to play with us one day while their mom was at the hospital with their new twin sisters.  My girl’s love Aleeda and her sister Britton , we just don’t see enough of them…

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And since Sophia is the baby of our family now,  it’s good for her to spend time with children younger than her,  I’m afraid that Sophia enjoys being our baby a little too much, but I can hardly blame her.

And now it’s Valentine’s day today and winter trudges on.  Thank goodness I can kick the kids outside to enjoy the snow…

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So I can enjoy some peace and quiet haha.      I do try to enjoy the winter as well, but more often than not it seems I’m enjoying it inside by drinking coffee and looking out the window.  I just venture out to take the pictures.

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Like this one of the moon… see, you need winter for pictures like this.

So even though my cakes aren’t winning any awards and winter is still here with a vengeance, we feel so blessed on this Valentines day to have a loving family and friends to enjoy it all with.

God is good!

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

John 13:34-35 

Amen!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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God at Work

God is always at work, it’s  a fact.  And I know that Jason and I are always so encouraged to hear how God is moving in other’s lives, and so glad that our church, Harvest Bible Chapel will often will take the time to have people share their stories in front of our church.   At the end of November Jason and I had the opportunity to get in front and share our story.  That was an emotional and a pretty big deal for us, but we felt compelled to tell of God’s faithfulness even through Ava’s death, and on the whole I think it went well.   We both broke down towards the end both times (we shared in both services) but it was joy to be able to say that we could still praise God for his faithfulness even through our story didn’t have a happy ending.   When it goes online I will definitely share the link of the video.

Now today I going to share another link, one to a brand new Harvest Newsletter done through our church.

I’m a little biased towards this newsletter because I had the opportunity to submit an article for it.   I’m writing a 3 part series on our Ava story and the first one is called  “Peace Amid Turmoil”   It was a huge honour to be able to contribute, not to mention it was my first time working with a editor.  That was an experience that I first found a little tough (someone is actually critiquing my writing!!!!)  but in the end I found it very insightful and helpful.

Here’s the link!   God at Work Magazine

In other news,  I wish I could say that writing the article has been the reason I haven’t been blogging, but the truth is, well the truth is I just haven’t blogged, shame on me!   But I can fill in some blanks to say that we had a great Christmas.  Here’s a pic that I may have taken in the New Year right before we took down the tree…

 

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Our family really loves Christmas and its great to have a break from school and we enjoyed all our time spent with family and friends over the holidays.  We always make lots of great memories and this year we may have started a few new traditions.   The first was that we went and got our Christmas tree on Ava’s birthday which made the day special for the kids.   And then about a week later we made a trip to Toronto – just to revisit some of the places that hold the most memories of Ava for us.   We went and saw the staff who were so good to us at the Ronald MacDonald house, and saw many of our beloved nurses at SickKids.  It’s kinda funny because I know my kids would move back into the Ronald MacDonald House in a heart-beat and I think that is  a huge testament to the great job they are doing there.    I would love us to make a special visit to Toronto every December to be reminded of Ava and also to remember how good God was to us during that time.

And now it’s January and we keep moving ahead.  Lots of things are happening and we keep praising God for the fact that He is always at work and will always be faithful.

Amen!

 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
    his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.

Lamentations 3:22-23

 

 

 

 

Can’t wait to show you…

Ava’s gravestone!    Today we are celebrating Ava Day – our sweet little Birdy’s birthday;  she would have been 2 years old today!  It’s funny when I think about just how different life would be right now if Ava had been born healthy  – or if she had managed to get a heart and was doing well.   How different and marvelous it would be to have a little 2-year-old running around right now!

But that is not our story and we can be thankful that she is where she is.   We are glad we have this day to remember her, for her sweet smiles in spite of the pain and for how much we loved her and treasured every moment we had with her.

And here is her stone which we are so pleased with, it turned out exactly as I hoped…


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And here are the kids with it…

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You can’t really see it in the picture,  but the kids hand prints are in the foundation of Ava’s stone.   It was Jason’s idea and I love it.  I love it because the kid’s hand prints are on Ava’s coffin that Jason made and we want them to feel a part of this whole thing as much as possible.  You can see them clearly here before the stone was installed…

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And here they are showing off their hand-prints…

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Another thing that is a little tough to see if the photos is the verse on the bottom of Ava’s stone.  It’s her verse, Psalm 73:26…

 My flesh and my heart may fail,
    but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

All I can say to than is AMEN.

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We can’t wait to see you again Ava!

What we’ve been up too…

And here I was, planning to get back to blogging and do it regularly, but as this post is almost two months later, that clearly didn’t happen.  But what did happen was that we had a great summer with our family and friends which ended way to quickly.   And then… well I hinted at this a long time ago, but this fall we made a huge decision for our family going forward,  we started homeschooling!!!!   Yes folks, it’s true, we decided to pull our children out of the public school system and start teaching them at home, it’s kinda exciting.  And that probably explains why I haven’t had much time to breathe, let alone blog.

It’s been about 6 weeks and I can cautiously say it’s going well… although I can pretty much guarantee this won’t be a blog where you come to for homeschooling advice.  Rather, we are likely to be the blog that other homeschoolers visit so that they can feel good about themselves… haha    But we are creating a daily routine for ourselves and things do seem to be getting learned so that’s good.   I’m cutting them some slack right now because I KNOW without a doubt that none of my children would have ever flung a math book across the room at school, but at home that can seem like a good thing to do.   I guess trying to set up structure and routine in a place where you feel the most comfortable isn’t the easiest.  But we are persevering.

And the kids are doing really good, and seem to be enjoy being at home.   They really like the fact that if they hunker down and get their work done, it leaves them more time to do what they want to do.  And I like that we can tailor their education to each of their strength’s and weaknesses…  which also means we have to work around my strengths and weaknesses.  Weaknesses in the plural.  Homeschooling is humbling, it really is.

On a lighter note,  I want to take this moment to brag that our William came in 2nd in his cross country meet last week, way to go William!

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He couldn’t run in the Public School’s Cross Country meet this year, but ran in the Christian school meet instead.   There was still a large crowd and Jason thinks there were over 75 boys in his race, maybe more, so we were really very proud that he did so well.  I’m not sure where he got his speed from, maybe from his dad, but it certainly is fun to watch.

I wish I had been able to be there, but as it happens  I was in Toronto at SickKids that day.   I had been asked by the PACT team if I would come and speak at a seminar they were holding on palliative care, and I was very honoured and so said yes.  My mom came to be our substitute teacher for the day, and my dad came with me to Toronto.  I thought that I might cry too much or take too long, but praise God, it all went well.  There was a question period afterwards and I really enjoyed that, the students of the course asked me questions and one of the Dr’s on the team sat with me and facilitated as well as asked me more questions, and I just thought it was a really neat experience.   Not only was I pleased to give back to SickKids in this way, but I was able to see lots of our 4D staff, and one of our nurses from the CCU, as well as some members of the PACT team I hadn’t seen since last August.  Going back to SickKids is always bitter-sweet – but going there makes me feel close to Ava so it’s all good.  Jason and the kids wished that they could have joined me, so we are hoping to go back again soon.

As far as the other kids and what they are up too… Sarah is doing pretty good with her diabetes and her pump – she actually deserves a whole blog post for an update which I will do next.  And Sophia is just her happy sunny self… although lately it seems that she is fed up with being the youngest child.  She is taking to heart every time she doesn’t get to do something or feels left out – it’s tough being five years old.   Erik is programming his heart out  – which means he is still doing things that befuddle me completely so that’s good I think.   Jason is keeping busy as always and I am so thankful for such a wonderful supportive husband who takes such good care of us all.

I wish I had some recent pictures to show you, but I’ve been terrible and haven’t been taking pictures lately, so I will have to leave you with some that we took during our vacation in August.  These first three are pics of us sending off Chinese lanterns to remember our sweet little Birdy.  Jason found them for us and we loved sending them off… they were beautiful and it felt very fitting…

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And here are the four turkeys all together…

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So that’s what we’ve been up too in a nutshell.   We are so thankful for all of our blessings and God’s mercy towards us… it’s amazing.

Ephesians 3:20  Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think,according to the power at work within us,
21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.

 

We miss you Birdy

Ava Samantha Grace Colley

December 4, 2012 – August 15, 2013

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We love you so much our sweet little Birdy, and can’t wait to see you again in heaven some day.

Love mom & dad, Erik, William, Sarah & Sophia

Psalm 73:26     My flesh and my heart may fail,
    but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

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Ava’s Life Slideshow (change the quality for better pictures)

Hardly know….

I hardly know what to say after all this time!   I’ve been a lazy blogger for sure,  but this cold weather seems to have dulled my mind and most of the time it just felt like I had nothing to write about.   After the first craziness of getting Sarah on a pump at the end of January and February, there hasn’t been really anything exciting going on.   Which might not be strictly true,  but when I think about what we were dealing with last year, things now just don’t seem that big in comparison.   But last year was so out of the ordinary, that getting back to ‘normal’ has been an adjustment, but I will say that normal is good!   Although crazy did include our Ava, so I’ll always look back on that time with some longing.

Since January things have been a little weird for me as well, because all the kids have all been in school and I’ve been home.  They were in September too – but the fall went by so quickly and then it was Christmas that I didn’t notice.    But ever since I quit my job to stay home with the kids before Will was born, I’ve always had a little person at home with me to care for.   And until last August, it was looking like a permanent position.  But then things changed and Sophia started kindergarten and it’s kinda left me high and dry.  But I’m taking this time as a gift from God – time to be quiet and allow my soul to heal.  And Jason and I have some hopes for the fall that will change all of this, so we will keep you posted!

I really enjoyed having the kids at home for March Break even though the weather turned on us.   But we went off and spent a few days with my parents which was wonderful as we got to spend some time with family that we hadn’t seen in a while, including this sweet baby…

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We were back home on Friday and I kicked the kids outside to make snow-sculptures for something to do and the results made me laugh…

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Soph and Sarah made this snow man…  love it!

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Sarah and her snow bear…

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Erik and his snowman crunching snowmen (he reads too much Calvin and Hobbes)

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And Erik’s friend with a cute snow pig…

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Will was sporting a migraine that day so couldn’t participate, but came out later to help judge.  I know it was nice for the kids to get out and play with some packing snow and some sunshine that feels like spring even when the air doesn’t!

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So normal is good, and I would really like to keep exciting at bay for now.  Unless it’s exciting in a good way.  But God knows exactly what we need and I am excited to see what this upcoming year will bring for our family!

Merry Christmas!

Just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas, from our family to yours!

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Everyone here is excited that tomorrow is Christmas, and we are looking forward to all that the day will bring.

And I speak for all of us when I say that even though we wish we could celebrate as a family of 7 this year, we are doing good.  In fact, I’m jealous in a way that while we are celebrating Christ’s birth here… Ava gets to be with Jesus in heaven for Christmas this year, and it doesn’t get better than that.

Oh – and I’m excited to show you the birdy in the pic with the kids.  My uncle made it for us so that we can always include it in our family pics to show Ava’s place.  Isn’t that awesome?

It’s a beautiful Christmas eve here… the snow is falling and lots of Christmas lights are shining.  (Thanks Jason and Erik!)

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And I just wanted to make a quick shout out to all the nurses and dr’s who are working Christmas this year at Sick Kids.  We appreciated everyone in the CCU who took care of Ava (and Jason and I too) so well last December, we’ll never forget you.

Now, back to Christmas…

And they went with haste and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby lying in a manger. And when they saw it, they made known the saying that had been told them concerning this child. And all who heard it wondered at what the shepherds told them. But Mary treasured up all these things, pondering them in her heart. And the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all they had heard and seen, as it had been told them. Luke 2:16-20 ESV

Amen!

Ava Day

I’m pleased to say we had a really nice Ava Day.  And to put everyone’s mind at rest, we didn’t spend the day in sadness…  I honestly didn’t miss her more on Wednesday than I already do.  We just wanted this day to be about celebrating Ava’s life and to make it a  little special for our kids and that’s what we did.

In the morning I had a visit from my special sweethearts – Aleeda and Britton… along with their mother Tanya as well of course.. haha.    Sarah was supposed to go to school but wanted to stay at home to see them, and when I saw her playing with the girls,  I knew I was never going to tear her away to send her back to school.    She loves them so much and in a way they are her surrogate little sister’s, so I’m glad she was able to spend them with them.  Aleeda and Britton are getting so big!

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Tanya and I had a nice visit too.  It’s still kinda seems weird hanging out with Tanya and the girls in our homes, especially after spending so much time together in Sick Kids waiting for hearts.   We used to sit outside the girls rooms in the hall of ward 4D and pretend it was our front porch.   The nurses would come by to chat and we had so many good times – it made the hard days bearable.    And it would be awesome if the nurses could still just drop by from time to time  to join Tanya and I, but I know they have work to do. 🙂   The nurses did make our Ava day extra special by sending me a whole envelope of paper birdy’s they cut out… we were so touched and the kids put them up all over the house to decorate for Ava day.

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The eyes are courtesy of Sarah – I think she drew them on each one, and there were lots.

We actually have a house full of Christmas birdies right now… I love it.

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And this birdy ornament…

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Oh so fitting, God does surround us by His grace.

My cousin emailed me and told me that whenever she sees a Christmas bird decoration she thinks of us and Ava…and I liked that.  I see bird’s now wherever I go and I don’t  remembering ever seeing them before.     We also received this special little bird from some friends…

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So sweet.   But it’s not only that these bird’s remind me of my own little Birdy – for us they are a symbol of God’s faithfulness.   A reminder that during such a difficult time,  He never once left us on our own, and gave us the grace and strength we needed every day.   And so now when we see birds, we remember.

OK – so I didn’t think we were going to go to Ava’s grave on Wednesday because by the time Jason would get home from work we would be visiting a cold and dark graveyard… not a chance.   But then Jason thought we could pick the kids up for lunch at school and go during their lunch-break, so that’s what we did.  We grabbed some food and headed out there, and we brought some things to decorate the Birdy rain-meter that I marked her grave with (cuz we haven’t picked a stone yet).

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The combination of decorations isn’t strictly beautiful, but it’s the thought that counts. 🙂

We corralled the kids for a photo…

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And then headed back.  And on the way home William said to us… “So, I hate to say it, but this was pretty boring.”   Oh dear… and what a riot.   Sorry William, I just couldn’t make visiting your sister’s grave on her birthday more interesting, but I guess next year I will try harder.   🙂

We wound up the day with cake and pizza and more friends and all in all it was a really nice Ava day.    I don’t have to say that it would have been 100 times better if we were actually celebrating a birthday with Ava, but I imagine that’s understood.

But I always have to keep coming back to where she is, rather than where she isn’t.    She’s fully alive in heaven…  my baby no longer, but a new creature who is fully aware of the glory of God.   In a place where there is no pain or sadness or death.  Praise God, she is more alive than we are.

Revelation 21:4

4 “He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”

So see… we do have something to celebrate on this Ava day, she is in an amazing place and we will see her again!!

Amen!

Two Months

It’s two months today since our sweet baby Ava died, which means it’s been two months since we held her and kissed her and said good-bye to her.    And I look back now and I marvel at how God gave us the grace to let Ava go that day.   How we were able to hold her and wait for the end to come without completely breaking down.   God carried us with amazing incredible strength and for that we can look back and praise Him, even in the midst of the pain of that day.

And we still miss Ava so much, and the ache in our hearts hasn’t gone away.   And grief keeps sneaking up on us, where one minute we are fine, and the next minute we are in tears.   I see her pictures and I just want to hold her and kiss her and love her, and then I just hope that when she was with us, I loved her enough.   I know I tried to spend as much time as I could with her the last few months when she was in hospital, but I obviously couldn’t be with her 24 hours a day if I wanted my other kids to remember that they had a mother.  It’s just that now I wish that it had been possible for me to have never left her side.   Although I’m grateful once again for the support of friends, and it helped that one of my friends who is a nurse on 4D kinda scolded me when I  asked if I loved Ava enough when she was there.  🙂  And I do know that when I wasn’t  able to be at the hospital, Ava was receiving a lot of love from the nurses and they were so good to her.    I really do think it’s more of a case of me wanting to give her some love right now (oh what I would give for a cuddle with my baby!) that makes me wish I could have given her more then.   But the reality is that Ava didn’t feel good alot of time and when she didn’t feel good, she didn’t want to be held.  And she slept so much too.  She was just a sick little baby,  who has now left all that behind and is free from her body of death, and is now enjoying the glory of God in heaven.  Praise God.

And it’s kinda sweet, but our little Sophia is the one who tells me that she misses Ava the most.   She’ll look sad and I’ll ask her why, and she will tell me that she misses Ava. Actually for the past week she’s been telling me that she misses 3 things…. the stray cat that was hanging out around our house for a while (and thankfully found a home elsewhere), Ava, and our friend’s dog named Duke who she hasn’t seen in a while.   Sophie makes me smile.

We were really fortunate to be able to spend some time together at the cottage this weekend.  Some friends were there for a bit as well and the weather couldn’t have been nicer if we had ordered it online.

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And yes, Jason was able to borrow the Gator from work and it certainly did alot to enhance Jason and the kid’s enjoyment of the weekend, I’m glad you noticed.

In other news, Erik managed to break his arm almost two weeks ago by falling off the swing… rather inglorious actually as he wasn’t really swinging and in his own words said that he just forgot to jump off.  Oh Erik.    After the fall he was in  a lot of pain that seemed to be getting worse so off to emerg we went.  I was a little worried about going there seeing that it was one of Ava’s favorite spots to hang out, but all it did was managed to feel very familiar.   Now because Erik wasn’t top priority, we had to wait a while and after a few hours Erik didn’t seem to be in much pain anymore and i was kicking myself for running to emerg so quickly because I was starting to think that it was nothing.   But thankfully when the doctor came in she diagnosed a buckle fracture and fitted Erik with a splint.    He’s been great about wearing it and taking on and off himself so it hasn’t been that bad.  But it’s our first broken bone and I hope it’s our last!

William also distinguished himself last week by coming in 5th place in our school district’s semi-final Cross Country meet.  Jason and I were very proud and were also glad that all his running around inside our house has finally paid off.  Next week he is off to the finals and I’m already nervous for him, but he’s a pretty good sport and I know he’ll be happy whatever place he comes in.

So life isn’t slowing down for us.  But even though it’s been two months since we lost Ava,  praise God He is holding on to our hearts and we are doing OK.   We miss her like crazy, but we are doing OK.

Sudbury

Here we are again.  Another week has passed and I am attempting to blog and my plan is to succeed.  🙂

First off, as a family we are doing fairly well all things considered.  We are working on getting a good school routine going with the kids and I’m pleased to report that Sophia seems to have turned a corner this week in regards to wanting to go to school.  Up until now she’s been hesitant about going and has refused to take the bus in the morning. I don’t really mind driving her, but when I drop her off I’ve been having to find one of her teachers to hand her off too and then she would start crying and I would have to peel her off of me and bolt.   The teachers always said she was fine five minutes later, but it still wasn’t a fun routine.    But  yesterday morning when I dropped her off at school, she found a little friend right away and I left her happily playing in the play-yard and she was fine with me leaving.  And she was all smiles when she got off the bus in the afternoon, and this morning she actually rode the bus to school!  Way to go Sophia!

And Sarah is doing well.  She’s loving school this year and on Saturday, she and I went to a ‘Diabetes Family Day’ put on by the hospital.  It was really good and I learned a few things and Sarah  met a little friend who also has diabetes who we plan on keeping in touch with.   So I was really glad we went.

William is also doing well.  I do think that he is still trying to process everything that has happened, and so we are trying hard to give him the extra time he needs with us, and that boy likes to talk.  He also likes to run so we were happy that this year he could join the Cross Country team at school.  He just loves it and its so nice that he has an outlet for all his energy and I can’t wait to see him run in a meet.

Erik has also been busy since he bought a Raspberry Pi online (it’s a computer) and has been busy learning how to program it.   I found a website online where you can learn to code and that’s how he loves to spend his time now… which kinda makes me laugh, but I’m very proud too.  Except I wish he was as interested in his math homework.   Jason and I aren’t sure where we got Erik from, but I’m pretty sure he’s already smarter than me.

So with our family update out-of-the-way I can tell you about our quick trip to Sudbury.   You might ask why we would go up there, and I will tell you but it’s actually a sad story.   It starts with us spending the summer at the Ronald MacDonald House with a family who had a son named Jordan who was 9 years old.  He was also born with hypo-plastic left heart like our Ava,  but he had his three open heart surgeries when he was young and so was living with his half a heart.   When we met them, his family was staying at the house because Jordan was experiencing some health complications due to his heart, and as it turned out, Jordan was also listed for a heart transplant this summer like Ava.    One nice thing was that for most of the summer and even up until the time that we left in August, he was able to live at the Ronald MacDonald House with his family while he waited for a heart.   And we enjoyed getting to know his mom and dad while we were there, and Sophia liked playing with Jordan’s little sister who was the same age as her.

Now I’m a little sketchy on all the details, but I do think Jordan had been admitted to Sick Kids and had spent some time there before a heart did come in for him two weeks ago Tuesday.   Except that Jordan walked into the operating room, and didn’t come back out in good shape at all.   It was hard to hear that the transplant did not go as hoped and a few days after the transplant surgery, Jordan lost his life.    We were so devastated by the news, not only because we had gotten to know Jordan and his family,  but because this new heart was supposed to make things better… not hurt him and take his life.    I guess it was kinda shocking for us in a way, because the whole time we had waited for a new heart with Ava, we had never really thought that an outcome of a transplant would ever be different from something good.  Perhaps that was just naive of us,  but it makes us wonder now what would have happened if Ava had received a heart?   I guess it’s a non-issue, but , but it’s still a little tough.

But remember how I said that our faith in God gives us assurance that things worked out for Ava the way they were supposed to?   I know the same is true for Jordan, but it doesn’t mean there isn’t grief, and I can only imagine how losing a child you’ve had in your life for nine years would just turn your world upside down.

When we heart the news about Jordan,  Jason and I both knew right away that we needed to go to Jordan’s service, and so that’s why on Sunday morning we packed up and headed north.   Far north.  But honestly, it’s not as far as i thought it was….. for some reason I was thinking half way to the Arctic (haha), but as it turns out it’s only 5 1/2 hours from here.   And God was very faithful to us and provided us a safe journey as well as a place to stay in the form of another family we had met at the Ronald MacDonald House who also were from Sudbury.  They have 7 children and share our faith and we were very excited to be able to go and spend some time with them.   And we did have a wonderful time together.  They were very hospitable and all the kids had a blast together and if we could have stayed a week, we would have.   But we could only manage to be away for one night, and so after Jordan’s service on Monday we had dinner with our friends and headed home again.   But not before stopping to see the big Nickel.  You can’t go to Sudbury and NOT see the big Nickel

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And here is a pic of the kids together…

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I love big families.

So that was our Sudbury road-trip.   Please keep Jordan’s family in your prayers as they continue to grieve for their son.   I know we are still grieving the loss of our Ava and it’s hard because every day that goes by is a day that I feel further away from her.  It’s one more day added on to the days I haven’t been able to hug her or hold her and it’s hard to think of going ahead and getting that much further away from her.   But on the other hand I know that everyday is a day that I will get closer to seeing her in heaven.  Praise God for the assurance that I have that when I die I will go and see her again.   I can’t wait. 🙂

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, 1 Peter 1:3 ESV

Amen.